I wrote here a couple of years
ago about an ancestral puzzle created by my 3x great grandfather William Brodie
Gurney’s attempts to write someone out of the family history. The Gurney family
so disliked the second wife of their beloved grandfather Thomas Gurney of
Blackfriars(1705-1770) that they referred to her only by her initial. They did
the same with her son in law and with the town in which her grandchildren
lived, making it impossible, or at least very difficult to identify and trace
them.
All that W.B. Gurney allowed us
to know was that Thomas Gurney had married a Miss R., sometime after the death
of his first wife on 29th
May 1756 and (obviously) before his death in 1770. Thomas and Miss
R. had one child, Rebecca, who married a Mr F of Hertfordshire; and Rebecca and
Mr F. had two children: Thomas who had 5 children, and Martha, the latter still living, in W., when WBG’s history was published in c1850.
Thomas Gurney (1705-1770)
Rebeccah Wick’s husband
R., F. and W. – not much to go
on. Someone suggested that the R. might be a first name not a surname. Given
their daughter’s name, could it stand for Rebecca? Sure enough, Thomas Gurney
widower married Rebeccah Wicks in Southwark on 8th October 1756. The location is right too, because Southwark is where the Gurneys worshipped –
another Thomas Gurney marriage, to Rebecca Austen, took place in 1766 in Kent,
a county with which Thomas had no previous association.
I can find no other definite
trace of Rebeccah, either as Wicks or Gurney. But in the search for her
daughter I found Rebecca Gurney marrying John Flindall widower in London
on 18th October 1798.
The date fits for a woman born around 1757, especially if she had remained a spinster for a while as many daughters did, to care for her widowed mother. And her husband is a Mr F.
So, armed with a potential
surname at last, I started looking for Rebecca (Gurney) Flindall’s children Thomas and
Martha. There were too many Martha Flindalls to tell; but there was also a
Thomas Flindall born in Hertfordshire in around 1800, soon after Rebecca and
John Flidall got married.
I cross-checked, and found him elsewhere
on Ancestry.co.uk, where a contributor had added his middle name – which as far
as I’m concerned pretty much confirmed that I had followed the trail of
initials correctly. The grandson of Rebeccah Wicks and Thomas Gurney, son of
their daughter Rebecca and her husband John Flindall, was Thomas Gurney Flindall, named by Rebecca after
her father.
Rebecca must have been aware of the hostility to her mother and
perhaps to her from the rest of the Gurney family, and she was defiantly
confirming the connection which they would like to have erased from history.
William Brodie Gurney (1777-1855)
whose family history dismissed his grandfather’s second marriage
Miss R. may have “dissipated
Thomas’s property to gratify her habits of intemperance,” as W.B. Gurney
alleged, or she may not. And I can understand the family’s hostility to a
marriage which took place only five months after the death of their beloved
matriarch. But blood is thicker than water, or gin. I’m pleased to have
uncovered her identity, and for that matter Mr F.’s.
Oh, and what about the W.? Thomas
Gurney Flindall was, at the time of the 1841 census, a blacksmith in the Hertfordshire
town of … Welwyn.